Oh, the Cleverness of me!

Oh, the cleverness of me!

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themilitarywife:

25 Tips I Want to Share with Younger Wives
1.    Hold hands whenever you can. We do and always have. We’ll clasp hands when sitting next to each other on the couch, while we’re driving along in the car, and when we’re out walking. A simple connecting that goes a long way.
2.    Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his life.
3.    Look for the many ways to love on him. Small gifts and thoughtful gestures. Those little things that say, I love you and I’m thinking of you.
4.    Make friends with people who’ll encourage your marriage. Surround yourself with those who will support and pray for you both as you grow together.
5.    And avoid those who pull against you. If they were “friends”, I’d ditch them altogether. (Real friends are going to cheer you both on). It’s harder with extended family members, but I’d dodge those as much as possible too.
6.    Go to the Word of God for the best marriage counseling. You can get good advice from others, but there’s no replacing the loving, powerful Truth to be found in Scripture.
7.    Cultivate your friendship. Marriage isn’t merely a business deal.
8.    Never give up on each other. People go through difficult seasons and we get to persevere through them. Don’t let go.
9.    Confess your sins to one another. Doesn’t help to smooth it over; instead repent and ask forgiveness. (Jas. 5:16)
10.   And then forgive freely. (Col. 3:13)
11.    Be patient with him. Love is long-suffering, remember? (I Cor. 13:4)
12.   Show him respect. It’s in the Bible. And it’s what he needs (Col. 3:18).
13.   Leave off with the complaining. It only drags the both of you down (Phil. 2:14).
14.   Focus on those things which are true, pure, and lovely. (Phil. 4:8)
15.   Speak kindly to him. Gracious words are sweet to the soul (Prov. 16:24).
16.   Let the little irritations go. Is it really worth bothering about? Probably not.
17.   Keep the home fires burning. Intimacy is still important. Yes, even long after the honeymoon.
18.   Stand by your man. You’ll probably find loyalty toward the top of his list.
19.   Make loving him your priority. Over your job, your friends, your extended family. Even over your children.
20.   Give him – and yourself – room to grow. I know that we’re not done growing yet and I’m guessing you two aren’t either.
21.   Express appreciation for the man that he is. Be an encouraging voice in that otherwise thankless world he lives in.
22.   Protect your marriage. Value your relationship for the treasure that it really is.
23.   Never leave off with kissing. No matter how old you grow. My husband’s 80-year-old parents still kiss each other goodbye – on the lips!
24.   Decide you’re going to stick together. With God’s help, you’re going to stay together throughout the years. (Mark 10:9)
25.   Put on love. Above all things. (Col. 3:14)

themilitarywife:

25 Tips I Want to Share with Younger Wives

1.    Hold hands whenever you can. We do and always have. We’ll clasp hands when sitting next to each other on the couch, while we’re driving along in the car, and when we’re out walking. A simple connecting that goes a long way.

2.    Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his life.

3.    Look for the many ways to love on him. Small gifts and thoughtful gestures. Those little things that say, I love you and I’m thinking of you.

4.    Make friends with people who’ll encourage your marriage. Surround yourself with those who will support and pray for you both as you grow together.

5.    And avoid those who pull against you. If they were “friends”, I’d ditch them altogether. (Real friends are going to cheer you both on). It’s harder with extended family members, but I’d dodge those as much as possible too.

6.    Go to the Word of God for the best marriage counseling. You can get good advice from others, but there’s no replacing the loving, powerful Truth to be found in Scripture.

7.    Cultivate your friendship. Marriage isn’t merely a business deal.

8.    Never give up on each other. People go through difficult seasons and we get to persevere through them. Don’t let go.

9.    Confess your sins to one another. Doesn’t help to smooth it over; instead repent and ask forgiveness. (Jas. 5:16)

10.   And then forgive freely. (Col. 3:13)

11.    Be patient with him. Love is long-suffering, remember? (I Cor. 13:4)

12.   Show him respect. It’s in the Bible. And it’s what he needs (Col. 3:18).

13.   Leave off with the complaining. It only drags the both of you down (Phil. 2:14).

14.   Focus on those things which are true, pure, and lovely. (Phil. 4:8)

15.   Speak kindly to him. Gracious words are sweet to the soul (Prov. 16:24).

16.   Let the little irritations go. Is it really worth bothering about? Probably not.

17.   Keep the home fires burning. Intimacy is still important. Yes, even long after the honeymoon.

18.   Stand by your man. You’ll probably find loyalty toward the top of his list.

19.   Make loving him your priority. Over your job, your friends, your extended family. Even over your children.

20.   Give him – and yourself – room to grow. I know that we’re not done growing yet and I’m guessing you two aren’t either.

21.   Express appreciation for the man that he is. Be an encouraging voice in that otherwise thankless world he lives in.

22.   Protect your marriage. Value your relationship for the treasure that it really is.

23.   Never leave off with kissing. No matter how old you grow. My husband’s 80-year-old parents still kiss each other goodbye – on the lips!

24.   Decide you’re going to stick together. With God’s help, you’re going to stay together throughout the years. (Mark 10:9)

25.   Put on love. Above all things. (Col. 3:14)

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I thought I was going to be okay but this girl brought her daughter to class tonight and every time she giggles I cry. I have a new respect for my boyfriend. Missing my little boy can’t be anything compared to missing your son, missing his birth because his mother is a bitch.
Thanksgiving please get here soon. Thank you.

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Because Facebook isn’t safe today: who the fuck misses the first half of their kid’s second birthday party and doesn’t even call him on his birthday? I love my man to death but he sure couldn’t of picked a dumber ditz to fuck without a rubber.

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Waking up in the middle of the night in a strange place knowing you’re going to throw up has got to be the worst. I hope this is just post flight junk and not the beginning of 9 months of morning sickness.

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I don’t know how to handle being with a man who fixes issues before they become problems. I’m so used to being in a constant state of anger that I don’t remember what it’s like to talk about something so everything is okay again.

I’m the luckiest girl in the world and I’m so happy I’m with someone who thinks they’re just as lucky as I am. He puts the biggest smile on my face and works so hard to keep it there. 

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I don’t know why I hurt myself especially now that it affects someone else as well. I want to think that I’m better but I am really just so far gone that it’s too hard to come back. I’m just making it up as I go now. Maybe I’ll get married next month. Maybe I’ll be single again soon. Maybe I’ll keep chasing someone who doesn’t deserve me.
All I know is that I’ll keep living. I’m just not sure about the details of my life. I’m not quite sure what makes me really happy any more. I just want to sleep and wake up and start all over and change everything. Maybe I’d be happier. Maybe I’d be worse. I don’t know if I’m ready to be a mother figure to a boy I didn’t bring into this world. I don’t know if I can handle there being another woman in my boyfriend/husband/lover’s life, even though she is the mother of his child. I don’t know what I can handle and what is too much. I’m afraid of turning the world off again. I’m afraid of locking myself away. I’m afraid I won’t be able to find a place to hide when I lose it. I’m afraid I’ll embarrass him one day because I’m crazy. He thinks I’m so amazing but he doesn’t know how much I hurt and I can’t put it in words. I’d like to pretend my life didn’t fall apart a few months ago. I’d like to pretend I’m alright.